Why Your Guests Could Be Your Wedding Videographers, with Ollie from Filmed On Phones
Welcome to I'll Marry You, a podcast by Olivia Coleman: full of tips and tricks from the UK wedding scene, interviews with industry experts, and a WHOLE LOT of oversharing!
In this episode, Olivia sits down with Ollie from Filmed on Phones to explore a unique approach to wedding videography that allows guests to capture the big day on their smartphones. This innovative service, run by Ollie and his wife Shona, gathers video clips from friends and family, creating a heartfelt and personal wedding video that reflects the joy and spontaneity of the occasion. They discuss the ease of assigning filming roles to guests, ensuring that key moments are captured from various perspectives without the stress of a traditional videographer. Ollie shares insights into how this service not only enhances the wedding experience but also provides couples with a treasure trove of memories to cherish. Tune in to learn how this modern twist on wedding videos is making waves in the industry and catering to couples looking for a more casual and inclusive way to document their special day.
Filmed On Phones
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Produced and Edited by Drew Toynbee.
Drew is a freelance digital content creator, editor and performer, hosting, producing and editing podcasts, audio and video content for clients across the UK, recording voiceovers for businesses and narrating audiobooks. Find him on Threads or at his website drewtoynbee.com
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Transcript
Welcome to I'll marry you, a podcast with me, Olivia Colman, full of tips and tricks from the UK wedding scene, interviews with industry experts, and a whole lot of oversharing.
Olivia Colman:Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, and good night.
Olivia Colman:And welcome to another episode of the I'll marry you podcast with Anwar.
Olivia Colman:Olivia Coleman, I'm intrigued to know whether you're watching or listening.
Olivia Colman:Oh, I just poked myself in the eye with a bloody mascara, Wanda.
Olivia Colman:All right.
Olivia Colman:Because, you know, if I'm going to the effort of putting some slap on for you and getting dressed, then I want to know if that's actually a waste of my time or not.
Olivia Colman:Yesterday.
Olivia Colman:Oh, you know, I thought to myself, I thought to myself, I'm really.
Olivia Colman:I've really let myself go in this pregnancy.
Olivia Colman:I really have.
Olivia Colman:And I was messaging my friend Sam, who is an exceptional chef and caterer, and he, we've just booked in for him to be on the podcast soon.
Olivia Colman:But I was messaging him and I was saying to him, I really let myself go.
Olivia Colman:Sam and the parents on the school run are not going to know what to do with themselves when I've given birth.
Olivia Colman:Lost a little bit of the old timber, and actually, you know, take pride in my appearance.
Olivia Colman:They're not going to recognize me because I.
Olivia Colman:It's true.
Olivia Colman:I have.
Olivia Colman:It's winter, it's hibernate.
Olivia Colman:Well, autumn, it's hibernation season.
Olivia Colman:And I'm getting.
Olivia Colman:I'm.
Olivia Colman:We're in the ten week stretch now, stretch being the operative word.
Olivia Colman:Ten weeks to go till due date, even though she's gonna be a little bit early.
Olivia Colman:And so it's all becoming quite uncomfortable.
Olivia Colman:I'm becoming quite miserable.
Olivia Colman:The other night, I got into bed and cried because the car seat that I bought didn't fit the pram that we have.
Olivia Colman: t two days, got out of bed at: Olivia Colman:And of course, he got it to fit, didn't he?
Olivia Colman:Bloody men.
Olivia Colman:So it's all very emotional at the moment.
Olivia Colman:I'm very emotional.
Olivia Colman:It's all lots of tears and tiredness and things.
Olivia Colman:But apart from that, all is well.
Olivia Colman:I hope you've all had a good week.
Olivia Colman:I had a wonderful weekend, actually.
Olivia Colman:I had a planning meeting with a gorgeous couple who are getting married quite soon.
Olivia Colman:They're getting married in a matter of weeks, in fact.
Olivia Colman:And normally my planning meetings are.
Olivia Colman:Well, I've been having planning meetings recently for March and April weddings.
Olivia Colman:So normally they are a fair few months in advance, but we couldn't do it until nearer the time.
Olivia Colman:So we met recently, and actually, I quite like that because then I write it straight afterwards and it's all very fresh in my mind, and then it's not long until I see them on the day itself.
Olivia Colman:So I quite like that.
Olivia Colman:So they.
Olivia Colman:Oh, God, they're gorgeous.
Olivia Colman:I mean, they're physically.
Olivia Colman:They're physically gorgeous, but reading their questionnaires and writing their ceremony.
Olivia Colman:Their ceremony is about three and a half weeks before I'm due.
Olivia Colman:And I messaged her and said, look, I've written your ceremony.
Olivia Colman:I'll send it over shortly, but I'm just letting you know that even if I give birth before your ceremony, I'm attaching that baby to the tit and just.
Olivia Colman:And carrying on because I have to be there.
Olivia Colman:I have to deliver this ceremony.
Olivia Colman:I have been sensible and I have contacted my other celebrant friends with my final few dates, because I think I've told you this, but my last wedding ceremony before I'm due is two weeks prior to my due date.
Olivia Colman:And again, I desperately want to be there.
Olivia Colman:So even though I have now got a backup just in case, I'm hoping that all will be well.
Olivia Colman:I'm going to wear a nappy.
Olivia Colman:And I'm thinking maybe, do I need a lectern or something in front of me?
Olivia Colman:Because basically, if my waters break, that's the only thing that I worry about.
Olivia Colman:If I start having contractions, you know, I'm a mother and a woman.
Olivia Colman:I could hide that pain.
Olivia Colman:I'm very stoic.
Olivia Colman:See, if I start having contractions, I'll be fine.
Olivia Colman:I'll just be like, oh, my God, he loves you so much.
Olivia Colman:And burst into song because you can hide anything with a random tune.
Olivia Colman:But if my waters break and it's like a full on gush, that's going to be hard to hide, isn't it?
Olivia Colman:Imagine.
Olivia Colman:Oh, my God.
Olivia Colman:I just thought about it.
Olivia Colman:Imagine if my waters break and, like, onto her, like Jimmy choos or something.
Olivia Colman:This is incredibly stressful, but I'm gonna cope with it.
Olivia Colman:I'm all right.
Olivia Colman:Anyway, so that's me.
Olivia Colman:That's this week.
Olivia Colman:The weekend just gone.
Olivia Colman:In fact, we did something that's very risky for a couple.
Olivia Colman:Anal.
Olivia Colman:No, it's not anal.
Olivia Colman:We went to Ikea close.
Olivia Colman:We went to Ikea as a family.
Olivia Colman:I, if given the choice, do not go to Ikea on a weekend.
Olivia Colman:What are you, a sadist?
Olivia Colman:But we have no choice because my husband won't take a day off, which makes me sound like a bitch, but it's his own bloody business to take a day off.
Ollie:Both.
Olivia Colman:You know what I mean?
Olivia Colman:But he wouldn't take a day off, so we had to.
Olivia Colman:There's a man doing some handiwork outside.
Olivia Colman:It's very often the way on this street.
Olivia Colman:So we had to go to Ikea on Saturday to get some baby bits and furniture and all this stuff, you know, I'm nesting.
Olivia Colman:And to go to Ikea with your loved one on a weekend, I believe, is a real test to any relationship.
Olivia Colman:And we went with Lola.
Olivia Colman:So a couple, a pregnant woman, her tired husband who's a little bit grumpy, I'm not gonna lie, and a four and a half year old who wasn't feeling great.
Olivia Colman:It was a real risky game.
Olivia Colman:We started at the cafe, obviously, because you've got to fuel, but actually, we didn't fight.
Olivia Colman:I had no tongue left by the end of it because of the amount of times I'd bitten my tongue.
Olivia Colman:And I could have cried in the bathroom section, but generally it went well and we didn't fight.
Olivia Colman:So I was really proud of us.
Olivia Colman:And ever since then, he's been ever so attentive.
Olivia Colman:I don't know why.
Olivia Colman:Do we think he's having an affair?
Olivia Colman:Could be.
Olivia Colman:Takes the heat off me, doesn't it?
Olivia Colman:Anywho, that's my week, and I hope you've all had a wonderful week.
Olivia Colman:And I'm very excited for.
Olivia Colman:God, look at the size of me.
Olivia Colman:I'm very excited for this episode, so I'll lead right into it.
Olivia Colman:It is an interview with an industry expert.
Olivia Colman:Enjoy.
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Olivia Colman:Sorry, producer Drew, I forgot to tell you.
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Olivia Colman:Right.
Olivia Colman:Welcome to another episode of the I'll marry you podcast.
Olivia Colman:And we have got an interview with Ollie from.
Olivia Colman:Filmed on phones.
Olivia Colman:And I don't know Ollie's.
Olivia Colman:Ollie says he's listened to a couple of episodes.
Olivia Colman:I don't believe him.
Olivia Colman:But if you have listened to a couple of episodes, Ollie, then you will know that I don't do a lot of research because I like to.
Olivia Colman:I like it to be organic, you know, and authentic.
Olivia Colman:But I like to ask the questions as I think other people would ask them.
Olivia Colman:So I know a little, but I don't know a lot.
Olivia Colman:So I'm excited to get into it.
Olivia Colman:So it's filmed on phones.
Olivia Colman:You're Ollie, and the first question is really hard hitting.
Olivia Colman:The first question I want to know is, how on earth did you come up with the name?
Ollie:Well, it's quite self explanatory, but we actually had a different name to start with.
Ollie:We used to be called Fy wedding, which was film it yourself wedding.
Olivia Colman:Oh, clever.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Like diy, but fiy.
Ollie:But people just got confused, like it was.
Ollie:Obviously, it's quite a unique concept, so it requires a bit of explanation.
Ollie:So then we ended up rebranding after a few months because I needed something that was just as clear as possible.
Ollie:Filmed on films.
Ollie:That's what it is.
Ollie:There's still the element that's left unexplained of that.
Ollie:It's the guests that film on their phones, not us.
Ollie:But the name hopefully gives you half the way there to what we do.
Olivia Colman:I do think you have to.
Olivia Colman:I got into trouble in an old job for saying this too often, that people are stupid.
Olivia Colman:But people are stupid when you come up with.
Olivia Colman:Not my listeners.
Olivia Colman:When you come up with branding and marketing and all that stuff, I do think you have to do it for the simplest of minds.
Ollie:Yeah, absolutely.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:And one of the.
Ollie:Another problem we've had is that.
Ollie:So my brother lives in the US, and apparently in America, they don't really use the word filmed in the way that we do.
Olivia Colman:What do you mean?
Ollie:Right, like, yeah, a film is associated with, like, a roll of film, but they don't say, like, you film something.
Olivia Colman:What do they say?
Olivia Colman:Record.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Or video or.
Ollie:So when I have actually done a wedding in the US, but one day I'd like us to be international, and then I'm gonna have to cross that bridge and maybe have a different.
Olivia Colman:Aim high, Ollie.
Olivia Colman:Aim high.
Olivia Colman:Absolutely.
Ollie:Of course.
Olivia Colman:Of course.
Olivia Colman:So.
Olivia Colman:Right.
Olivia Colman:Tell me about yourself.
Olivia Colman:Where are you?
Olivia Colman:What age, sex, location?
Olivia Colman:Asl?
Olivia Colman:You look too young to know ASL.
Ollie:No, I do, I do.
Ollie:I know that.
Ollie:I've not.
Ollie:I don't think anyone's asked me that since I played on Haber Hotel about 20 years ago.
Olivia Colman:Since you had a Bebo account.
Ollie:I had a Bebo account, yeah.
Ollie:I'm old enough for that.
Olivia Colman:You're a millennial.
Olivia Colman:Okay, we've covered that.
Ollie:So, age.
Ollie:30.
Olivia Colman:Yeah.
Ollie:Sex, male.
Ollie:Location, Stockport, so just south of Manchester.
Olivia Colman:Okay.
Olivia Colman:I did notice a twang.
Ollie:A slight twang.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:Only slight, though, which is good.
Ollie:Don't want it to be too strong.
Olivia Colman:No, I can understand you.
Olivia Colman:And how long have you been.
Olivia Colman:How did you even get into the filming?
Olivia Colman:Wedding stuff like, take me back.
Olivia Colman:Take me all the way back to the beginning.
Olivia Colman:Any daddy issues we can talk about?
Olivia Colman:I want to know it all.
Ollie:So it actually originated from our wedding.
Ollie:It's myself and my wife that run the business, Shona.
Ollie: And we got married in: Ollie:And at our wedding, we kind of did a version of filmed on phones where we asked our friends to video stuff on their phones.
Ollie:And then I collected up all their footage, which was a bit of a pain, but I bet our service kind of makes that easy for people now.
Ollie:I made a great video from it, and it was just.
Ollie:The video was just so good because it was like, you get so much.
Ollie:So many things that I don't think a videographer would normally capture.
Ollie:Like people messing around, saying stupid shit at the end of the night to the camera, and loads of fun moments like that.
Ollie:And so, yeah, we did it at our wedding, and then we just thought, you know, what other people would like this.
Ollie:Like, it's not quite like anything else that existed at the time.
Ollie:So then we kind of just went for it.
Ollie:I have a background in marketing, web design, that sort of stuff, so I was able to build the website myself.
Olivia Colman:And you were quite tech savvy to begin with.
Ollie:Yeah, I'm a bit of a techie guy.
Ollie:I don't think I've ever had microphone issues quite as catastrophic as the ones you had at the start before recording.
Olivia Colman:I'm not a tech person.
Olivia Colman:And like I said to you and producer Drew, you have to bear in mind that everything I do, I'm carrying human life in me.
Olivia Colman:Every movement.
Olivia Colman:Movement, rather, is an effort.
Olivia Colman:So before your wedding, you had a full time job.
Olivia Colman:What were you doing before that?
Olivia Colman:Before the wedding?
Ollie:Yeah, I worked in marketing for a small business, basically nothing too glamorous.
Olivia Colman:And tell me about your wedding.
Ollie:So our wedding was extremely diy.
Ollie:It was in a barn, but when we viewed it, there were literally cows in the barn.
Ollie:So.
Ollie:Very real cow barn.
Olivia Colman:Oh, God.
Ollie:And the smell of shit.
Ollie:I thought, I presumed, because they kind of, like, block it out in summer, they clear it all out and do, do weddings just over the summer period, and I presumed the smell would go away.
Ollie:I didn't really.
Ollie: d after being there for about: Olivia Colman:It's rustic.
Olivia Colman:It's rustic, isn't it?
Ollie:No, no.
Ollie:Yeah, but it was.
Ollie:It was a really perfect day.
Ollie:Like, everything went so unbelievably smoothly and.
Ollie:Yeah, very diY.
Ollie:As I say, we did a lot of stuff ourselves, like the video.
Olivia Colman:So did you have a photographer?
Ollie:Yes.
Olivia Colman:Did you have a videographer?
Ollie:No.
Olivia Colman:So therein lies the gap, ollie.
Ollie:Well, yeah, so I do have a bit of a background doing video editing.
Ollie:Like, I've done a few wedding videos and stuff for friends and family in the past, and obviously working in marketing has always involved bits of video editing.
Ollie:So initially, I was like, I need a videographer.
Ollie:Like, that's the one thing that I really want to get.
Ollie:Shona had a long list of all the things she wanted.
Ollie:All I was bothered about was the videographer.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:But then the more I thought about it, I actually decided I didn't actually want a professional videographer and value the work that videographers do.
Ollie:So I don't mean this.
Ollie:I don't want to say anything bad about videographers, but for us, we kind of just wanted it to be a bit more casual, a bit more relaxed.
Ollie:But we still wanted to have those moments to look back on.
Ollie:On video.
Ollie:So we had a really good photographer, Jen Garlick, she's called, based around us, and she was fantastic.
Ollie:But then for the video stuff, we just asked our friends to film bits.
Olivia Colman:So you literally just said, can you film stuff?
Olivia Colman:And then what?
Olivia Colman:You sort of whatsapped them afterwards and said, send me over what you got?
Ollie:Pretty much, yeah.
Ollie:So I was quite, like, regimented with it.
Ollie:So I said, like, right, I want you.
Olivia Colman:Sounds fun.
Ollie:I want you to build the ceremony, you to do the speeches and split it up.
Ollie:So there wasn't, like, one person has to do everything and has a really stressful day.
Ollie:So we gave, like, one or two tasks to individuals and had at least two people on all the main things, so it wasn't gonna, you know, so one person didn't have the stress of, like, I have to capture the ceremony and I'm the only person doing it.
Olivia Colman:I mean, you've taken it already from.
Olivia Colman:I'm just imagining you on your wedding day.
Olivia Colman:You've taken it already from like, oh, would you mind just filming a few silly drunken bits or just a bit of fun?
Olivia Colman:Bit of fun, too.
Olivia Colman:Right, Karen, you're on ceremony.
Olivia Colman:Okay.
Olivia Colman:I want you at the left angle.
Olivia Colman:These poor guests.
Olivia Colman:They must really love you.
Ollie:Well, no, but the thing is, they actually do, because they actually do love me.
Ollie:People enjoy the filming.
Ollie:Like, that's the thing.
Ollie:That was maybe an unanticipated thing about the business is that the guests really enjoy doing it.
Ollie:It's nice having feeling important, feeling like you've got to do something to do, but it is casual.
Ollie:At the same time, we're not asking people to get incredible cinematic shots that are perfectly framed with brilliant lighting.
Ollie:They just got to hold the phone there and film the thing, basically, so people enjoy it.
Ollie:But the thing is, I realized that not everyone is like me.
Ollie:Not everybody wants to have a spreadsheet where they're like, who's doing this?
Olivia Colman:This person's doing this.
Ollie:Our website.
Ollie:Once you made a booking on film dump phones, you're able to just assign roles in there.
Ollie:So I could add live and give you the role of speeches.
Ollie:Tick that.
Ollie:And then add in, like, a phone number or an email address for you.
Ollie:And then that's all as the groom or the bride would have to do.
Ollie:We, as in filmed on phones, then send out guidance to you to say you've been tasked with filming the speeches at Ollie's wedding.
Ollie:Here's a video showing you exactly what you need to do.
Olivia Colman:I hope you make it fun rather than you, rather than what you sound like as a groomzilla.
Olivia Colman:So you did it for your own bit of fun and you thought, this is quite a good idea.
Olivia Colman:And you and Shona were like, okay, maybe we could do something with this.
Olivia Colman:So when was filmed on phones actually born.
Ollie:So after the wedding, we went on our honeymoon to Canada, which was fantastic.
Ollie:We were there for three weeks.
Ollie:And I think three weeks is long enough away from work that you start evaluating your whole life and you're like, do I really want to go back to this office job?
Ollie:So then I think after it started really forming in my mind then, and I started working on it once we got back in my spare time.
Ollie:And then I think it was about two or three months after that that I quit my job.
Ollie:Yeah, I kind of went all in on it.
Olivia Colman:Risky Biscay.
Ollie:Yeah, risky.
Ollie:Maybe you could say risky.
Ollie:You could say stupid.
Ollie:You could say ambitious.
Olivia Colman:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:Sometimes you need the kick up the arse to do it, don't you?
Olivia Colman:What about Shona?
Olivia Colman:Does she.
Olivia Colman:Did she.
Ollie:She still works?
Olivia Colman:She's bringing home that bacon, making sure the mortgage.
Ollie:She works incredibly hard whilst I just sit here all day doing fun things like this.
Olivia Colman:Yeah, no, tell me about it.
Ollie:So hopefully.
Ollie:Hopefully one day I'll be able to.
Ollie:Well, she'll be able to join me full time as well.
Ollie:But we're a little way off that at the moment.
Olivia Colman:So it really hasn't actually been going that long.
Olivia Colman:Like less than two years.
Ollie:Yeah, just about two years now.
Olivia Colman:That's amazing.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:I mean, it's gone well, though.
Ollie:We've done, I think we must be coming up to 50 weddings now.
Ollie:So we did some, like, for free initially when we were trying to just test out the idea and get it out there.
Ollie:But it's growing steadily and it works so incredibly well, like, genuinely better than I thought it would work.
Ollie:Every wedding now, we get over 200 clips generally, which is hours and hours of footage that tends to be.
Olivia Colman:Yeah.
Ollie:And really good clips as well, like, because a lot of people these days are like, you know, quite friendly with the video on the phone and most phones can film in, like, 60 frames per second and, like.
Ollie:So the quality actually is good.
Olivia Colman:Yeah, you've lost me already.
Olivia Colman:So let's speak practically then.
Olivia Colman:If I.
Olivia Colman:How do I find you on Instagram?
Olivia Colman:I find you on the Internet, whatever.
Olivia Colman:And then I get in touch.
Olivia Colman:How does it work?
Olivia Colman:Talk me through the logistics.
Olivia Colman:Talk me through the journey.
Ollie:The journey.
Ollie:The journey.
Olivia Colman:The journey with iron.
Ollie:Filmed on films on the.
Ollie:On our website.
Ollie:You pick a package to start with, basically, which.
Ollie:They're all the same apart.
Ollie:The only difference is the highlights film that we edit for you.
Ollie:So we've got a few different options.
Ollie:There's one that's like one video, one song for, like two to three minutes.
Ollie:There's one that's the classic package is like two songs.
Ollie:And then there's the extended package, which is usually three songs.
Ollie:And then it also includes, like, full cuts of the ceremony and speeches.
Olivia Colman:Do you mean like two songs, two videos or two songs?
Olivia Colman:So a longer video?
Ollie:A longer video, yeah.
Ollie:So it's the length of the video that we create, basically, that dictates the difference between the packages.
Ollie:With all of the packages, you book it and then on the website, you get access to this area where you can assign a videography roles.
Ollie:We call them filmers people.
Olivia Colman:Another excellent original name.
Ollie:Yep.
Ollie:Yep.
Ollie:Wouldn't do well in the US, but there you go.
Olivia Colman:Videoers.
Olivia Colman:Video.
Olivia Colman:Well, they'd be videographers in the US.
Ollie:So you can assign up to ten of them.
Ollie:We've got six roles at the moment, so.
Ollie:Getting ready?
Olivia Colman:Yeah.
Ollie:Speeches, ceremony, first dance, cake cutting and the party.
Olivia Colman:Nice.
Olivia Colman:Nice.
Olivia Colman:The essentials are covered.
Ollie:The essentials are covered, yeah.
Ollie:So you can add up to ten people who will then be sent guidance from us a week before your wedding.
Ollie:So what we recommend is you add them in there and then you speak to them yourself and say, by the way, we're using this thing called filmed on phones.
Ollie:Give them the basic idea of what that means, that you want them to film a part of your wedding day on their phones.
Ollie:And then a week before the wedding, they'll receive a text message and an email from us with a bit of guidance and a fun video telling them what to do.
Ollie:And then the day after the wedding, while on the wedding, they film whatever they need to film.
Ollie:The day after the wedding, we then get in touch with them again, so they'll get a text message and an email that says, hope you had a great day.
Ollie:If you can upload all your videos here, you've got a week.
Ollie:And they go on there, they add all their videos.
Ollie:It's really easy to upload them to us.
Ollie:They come straight to us, organized into a nice, neat little folder ready for us to then edit them together into a video for the couple.
Ollie:And one thing that's worth mentioning is if you send videos on WhatsApp or Messenger or whatever, then it actually compresses them so they get, the quality reduces every time.
Olivia Colman:Right.
Ollie:So that's, that's something, a problem that we had at our wedding when we were collecting them in and then we were getting the videos, but then they weren't as good anymore.
Ollie:So if you upload them via our website on the link on there, then they don't get compressed at all.
Ollie:So they come to us in like the perfect original quality and, yeah, that's.
Olivia Colman:And then how long is it to, like, till me, the bride?
Olivia Colman:I.
Olivia Colman:Til my.
Olivia Colman:Me and my husband, Chris Hemsworth, how long was it until we get our video that we can watch naked on a sheepskin rug?
Ollie:I have listened to your podcast before because I've heard you use the Chris Hemsworth line before.
Olivia Colman:I love him.
Olivia Colman:There are things that man could do.
Ollie:I'm sure.
Ollie:I'm sure.
Ollie:So, yeah, 28 days, basically.
Ollie:So they have a week to upload.
Ollie:So people aren't too stressed about that.
Ollie:So a week from your wedding is uploading time when people are just adding their videos, and then within 21 days from there, we edit the highlights film.
Olivia Colman:Okay, let's just give me a rough idea of cost.
Olivia Colman:What are we looking at?
Olivia Colman:How much am I budgeting?
Olivia Colman:Budgeting.
Ollie:So our, kind of, our classic package, the middle one is 399.
Olivia Colman:Oh, it's a bargain.
Ollie:Yeah, I think so.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:It's obviously a fraction of the cost of a professional.
Ollie:Obviously, we don't come to the wedding, so it's very different to that.
Ollie:Yeah, yeah, it's.
Ollie:I think it's a bargain.
Ollie:And then the mini package starts at 299, so.
Ollie:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:And would that be.
Olivia Colman:How many people do you think have it purely for social media?
Olivia Colman:Other videos in that time?
Olivia Colman:They're not in that time.
Olivia Colman:So it's like you can be a real.
Ollie:What do you mean?
Ollie:Sorry?
Olivia Colman:Like, so that you.
Olivia Colman:When you edit the videos, you don't edit them down to a certain.
Olivia Colman:The certain amount of time?
Ollie:No, no.
Ollie:So we.
Ollie:Yeah, the highlights films, we just make kind of really just for people to enjoy as a video.
Ollie:Like, more like a videographer does, rather than like a content creator.
Ollie:You.
Ollie:The couple does also get access to all the videos that have been uploaded to us, so it's good for them to just collect everything in.
Ollie:But generally we find it's not really specifically for social media that people are using us, if that makes sense.
Olivia Colman:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:Do you know what I would do?
Olivia Colman:I'm just thinking about it.
Olivia Colman:I would have you as a gift, you, ollie wrapped up.
Olivia Colman:No, I would be like, as a wedding present, I would say to, like, my aunties or my uncles or my grandparents, whatever.
Olivia Colman:Can you all chip in and pay for this service?
Olivia Colman:Because it's a very fair price.
Ollie:Yeah, well, we have actually.
Ollie:Funny you say that.
Ollie:We've done.
Ollie:I think there's been two weddings that were actually gifts where somebody else organized them, and then, I mean, in theory, you could do it all without the bride and groom even knowing that it was happening.
Olivia Colman:Love that idea.
Ollie:I should really push that.
Ollie:That is a good idea.
Ollie:You should push that because.
Ollie:Yeah, people just.
Ollie:Everyone's filming on their phones anyway, so no one's gonna notice that anything different happened.
Ollie:And then 28 days after the wedding, you suddenly receive a nice video of all the best moments.
Olivia Colman:You should.
Olivia Colman:Yeah, you should definitely push that.
Olivia Colman:Because I think that if you get all your, you message people, or a lot of people do these QR codes now, don't they, where you can.
Olivia Colman:The guests can upload any pictures they take and then the couple have them afterwards.
Olivia Colman:But even then, realistically, you're not going to be asked to sit down and make an actual video.
Olivia Colman:And if you don't make an actual video, how often are you realistically going to sit down and go through everyone else's photos?
Olivia Colman:Once you've got the professional photos?
Olivia Colman:But if someone came to me like, oh, surprise, that would be so cool, ollie, you should definitely push that.
Ollie:Yeah, yeah, no, I will do that.
Ollie:I'll make a note of that.
Olivia Colman:Write that down.
Olivia Colman:You're welcome on the code.
Ollie:Actually, as well, we do provide a QR code.
Ollie:You can get that in the back end of the website when.
Ollie:So you can put a QR code up, but then, because it's not only the filmers that can upload stuff, in theory, anybody can upload.
Olivia Colman:That's what I was.
Olivia Colman:Yeah, because everyone will take something.
Olivia Colman:Although you probably, you might not like this, but as a celebrant, at the beginning of the ceremony, I will always.
Olivia Colman:Not always.
Olivia Colman:95% of the time, I say, please don't film anything.
Ollie:Well, yeah, funny, actually, we did that, our wedding.
Ollie:So it was a no phones ceremony.
Olivia Colman:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:Unplugged.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Because it's, you know, and photographers generally aren't that keen on that either.
Ollie:It kind of ruins them.
Ollie:Requires a lot of photoshopping if everyone's holding their phone up.
Ollie:So, although it seems to be, like, contradictory to what we do as a business, that is what we did.
Ollie:And I think it can still work because if you just have one or two people, they can.
Ollie:If it's just like, you know.
Olivia Colman:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:And also it always makes me laugh because I always ask my couple if they want me to say it and they normally say yes, because, like you say, you paid a lot of money for a photographer and then they're going to take photos of the.
Olivia Colman:The important bits with everyone's bloody phones out.
Olivia Colman:But there is always one.
Olivia Colman:There's always one who'll look at me and give me a wink and be like, it's all right, I'm allowed.
Olivia Colman:Really?
Olivia Colman:Are you, Aunt Sally?
Olivia Colman:Because you're the reason that I've even saying this.
Olivia Colman:There's always going to be one or two people on their phones, isn't there?
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:It's unavoidable, I think, people these days.
Olivia Colman:So, okay, I have questions for you.
Olivia Colman: g, because my main concern at: Ollie:Yeah, well, that's what.
Olivia Colman:If only the footage you get is shit.
Ollie:Yeah, well, it hasn't happened yet, but the roles is what makes the difference there.
Ollie:And we can see, because you don't have to add ten people, we do recommend you use all of them because it's when.
Ollie:When people add ten filmers, then that's when we get 200 to 300 clips every time and makes my job harder, but ultimately better.
Olivia Colman:And different angles as well.
Olivia Colman:You don't want them all sat together the whole time.
Ollie:Yes.
Ollie:Yeah, yeah.
Ollie:If you don't do that, then, yeah, you won't get anywhere near as much.
Ollie:When we very first launched, we did, I was obsessed with the QR code thing, so we actually provided physical cards that you could put out and people can scan them to upload footage.
Ollie:But we found we actually barely got anything doing that.
Ollie:Or not as much.
Ollie:You get much more by using the filmers.
Ollie:So it's a difficult thing, the film is, because when I'm trying to explain the idea of the business, I've still not got it really nice and concise, I don't think.
Ollie:Because the filmers section is so important to making it work, that's why it works well, but it's kind of like long winded to explain and a bit tedious, but it's to explain.
Ollie:But it's actually really easy for the couple to just add their friends in and then it guarantees that it works really well.
Olivia Colman:But I would struggle very much choosing who the filmers should be, and especially the party, because everyone's pissed by then.
Ollie:Yeah, well, I mean, there's usually one or two pregnant people, so tell me about them.
Ollie:Perfect option.
Ollie:But actually, I was editing a video yesterday and it's fantastic when the people filming the party are pissed because there was a girl going around just sticking the camera in people's faces and she was just like, it makes such good content, so as long as they remember to do it.
Ollie:But also when people are pissed is when they start getting their phones out and filming everything.
Ollie:It's just like an instinct, I think.
Olivia Colman:So I do really like it when I've seen it.
Olivia Colman:When you have people stick their phones in your face and then they do a well wish or, hi, great party, congratulations.
Olivia Colman:And they have little clips of all of their guests sending them well wishes.
Olivia Colman:I do enjoy that.
Ollie:So that actually leads on very nicely too.
Olivia Colman:Ollie, I didn't even know I was providing you with a segue.
Ollie:Yeah, no, perfect.
Ollie:We do do a guestbook package which is only 99 pounds.
Ollie:99 pounds for us to edit, which is similar concept overall, but it's specifically focused around creating a video guest book.
Ollie:So you go around asking people to give a message for the bride and groom or maybe marriage advice or just well wishes, whatever they want.
Ollie:And then we edit all that together within 24 hours of receiving everything.
Ollie:So that you assign one or two people to just video guestbook stuff.
Ollie:And then.
Ollie:Yeah, they let us know once they've uploaded everything and then we edit it in 24 hours because it's very easy to edit, obviously.
Ollie:It's just necessary.
Olivia Colman:That's brilliant.
Olivia Colman:Because I would see now, if it was me, I would make it a stationary activity.
Olivia Colman:So I would set up a camera on the tripod with, like a sign and I would maybe assign, like a 14 year old cousin or something.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:That would work well, because they tend to not drink and they like to feel important.
Olivia Colman:That's very good.
Olivia Colman:I like that very much.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:And because that's something that our friends did at our wedding, they just started going around and asking people, like, do you have a message for us?
Ollie:And that from our wedding video?
Ollie:That's actually my favorite part of it is all those messages, because it's just nice hearing, like, nice things about yourself and.
Ollie:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:Who doesn't love that?
Ollie:Yeah, we do the really quick turnaround as well, with the idea that you might be on your honeymoon and then you get a video with all these messages from your wedding day.
Ollie:If your friends just telling you how brilliant you are and what a great day they've been.
Olivia Colman:I love that.
Olivia Colman:Can I do that?
Olivia Colman:How can I do that?
Olivia Colman:I want my own guests book.
Ollie:You'd have to get married again.
Ollie:Were you married?
Olivia Colman:Yeah, but there's always.
Olivia Colman:There's always time for more.
Olivia Colman:It's always, I've got big plans.
Olivia Colman:Oh, I love that idea.
Olivia Colman:And actually, you're right.
Olivia Colman:The quick turnaround people nowadays, people expect a quick turnaround with everything, don't they?
Ollie:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:And that is a lovely thing because it's all, I always think that with, especially an at home wedding, the next days can often be even better than the wedding day when you're chatting about it and you're finding out what happened and the gossip and who was drunk and all that stuff.
Olivia Colman:So then if you are, if you head straight off on your honeymoon or what have you to have something come back and be like, oh, my God, I can't believe she said that.
Olivia Colman:Or, oh, I liked her dress, or, oh, that would be so lush.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:Oh, aren't you clever?
Ollie:I like to think so.
Olivia Colman:So you.
Olivia Colman:I was going to ask, but you've sort of already explained it, the main difference between you and a content creator.
Olivia Colman:So a content creator, for those listeners who don't know, is basically someone, I suppose the main difference is they go to the wedding, but it's.
Olivia Colman:It's someone who goes to a wedding and they will film all sorts of different bits on their phone, and then they will make a reel, I suppose.
Olivia Colman:Again, they're kind of almost entirely for social media, but how would you define yourself compared to them?
Ollie:Yeah, so obviously, as you say, the main difference is you actually have a person that comes to your wedding with a content creator, and it tends to be much more focused around social media and creating specific content for tiktoks and reels and that sort of thing.
Ollie:You can kind of get that from what we do because you get all the raw content as well.
Ollie:So you can make your own reels and stuff from what people upload, I guess.
Ollie:Another thing is, with our service, there's no limit to what you can upload.
Ollie: from, like, getting ready at: Ollie: rning right through to, like,: Ollie:when everyone's drunk and ready to go home.
Olivia Colman:Oh, it's a long day.
Ollie:It is a long day.
Ollie:So, yeah, I guess you get a bit more coverage and also the kind of different perspectives of different guests.
Ollie:We recommend using filmers from different sides of the family, different friend groups, so people are like, a lot more mishmashed and.
Olivia Colman:Clever idea.
Olivia Colman:Yeah, because I thought, yeah, it's almost like having them all sit next to each other.
Olivia Colman:You don't want that.
Olivia Colman:You want them to be all over the wedding.
Ollie:Absolutely.
Ollie:And I think another, the benefit of what we do is that friends tend to know, or family members or whatever your guests know, which moments are particularly important to you, so they'll, you know, things that a content creator or a videographer might struggle to capture because they wouldn't realize if one particular, like, part of the wedding had some special meaning or whatever.
Ollie:Whereas your friends are kind of guaranteed to know that.
Olivia Colman:And also you get to sit on your ass at home the whole time.
Ollie:Yeah, well, yeah, it's great for me.
Ollie:I don't have to go anywhere nationwide.
Ollie:Well, international, really.
Olivia Colman:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:The world your is, really?
Olivia Colman:Because you're not leaving Southport, Stockport, Stockport, Southampton, wherever you are.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Well, it's.
Ollie:I mean, that's kind of great.
Ollie:Obviously, there's no limit.
Ollie:Like, we had three weddings in one day over summer, so that's good for us in that we can, you know, do multiple at a time.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:It's also a downside, though.
Ollie:It's a little bit harder for me to, like, forge a relationship with the couple because I don't go and meet them.
Ollie:I do book in a call with them after they have made a booking so that I can get to know them a little bit and, like, you know, answer any questions.
Olivia Colman:But actually, you say that, and I think it's always nice to get to know the people who you're.
Olivia Colman:Who are helping you out on your wedding day.
Olivia Colman:But, and I mean this with the utmost respect, they don't need to know you, ollie, like, because you're not there.
Olivia Colman:So it's.
Olivia Colman:I always say to people, when they pick a photographer, videographer, wedding planner, there are certain suppliers.
Olivia Colman:And I always say to my couples, you, you have to like them because they're in your face.
Olivia Colman:They're there on the day, they're around you.
Olivia Colman:You have to like their vibe, enjoy hanging out with them.
Olivia Colman:You have to like them, but they don't have to like you, Ollie, because you're not there.
Olivia Colman:But you could be an absolute wanker and they'll be fine.
Olivia Colman:But they do like their guests.
Olivia Colman:So actually, you cut out the middleman so straight, you're.
Olivia Colman:You're already going to get the warmth that the photographer who's really good at his job and gets to know the couple really well and gets the warmth through the photos.
Olivia Colman:You're going to get that warmth through the clips.
Olivia Colman:It's just because they.
Olivia Colman:They're done by guests that the couple know and trust, clearly.
Ollie:Yeah, yeah.
Olivia Colman:Very clever.
Olivia Colman:We're really unraveling this business and every layer is a surprise.
Ollie:So much to it.
Olivia Colman:There is so much to it.
Olivia Colman:I think, and I'm sure you agree with me, I always tell people to do some, ask, advise people to do some kind of video, whether that is a videographer, content creator, or filmed on phones by Ollie and Shona.
Olivia Colman:There is.
Olivia Colman:It just feels different watching a video back than it does looking at photos.
Ollie:Yeah, definitely.
Ollie:And I think we.
Ollie:We find a lot.
Ollie:I imagine with most wedding suppliers, you're.
Ollie:Well, you can tell me, do people book you way in advance?
Ollie: e you taking bookings now for: Ollie:Yeah, yeah.
Ollie:Whereas most of our bookings actually come very last minute.
Olivia Colman:Yes, I can imagine.
Ollie:I have one yesterday that's getting married on Saturday, probably.
Ollie:Most people book us about a month or two months before their wedding.
Ollie:And I think that's because they're generally people that have decided initially they're not going to have a videographer for whatever reason.
Ollie:And then as the wedding gets closer, they start to think, you know what?
Ollie:I'd like to have some video captured.
Olivia Colman:And there's money left in the budget.
Ollie:Yeah, only 399.
Ollie:It's.
Ollie:Yeah, so that's where we come in.
Olivia Colman:No, you're right.
Olivia Colman:I did a wedding in the summer with a content creator person, and they said the same thing about them.
Olivia Colman:They were like, people tend to book us really last minute because they're like, oh, okay.
Olivia Colman:That, you know, maybe even like you.
Olivia Colman:Like you're saying with this wedding on the weekend, within a week, because so and so drops out or the flowers are less than we thought or whatever.
Olivia Colman:We have 500 quid left in the budget, you know, might as well spend it.
Olivia Colman:It's in the budget for a reason.
Ollie:I'm never going to regret having that, like, the video to look back on, because it really takes you back there, doesn't it?
Olivia Colman:I don't want to sound morbid, but I saw a thing on the Internet that was like, when you're at your wedding, don't forget to take a picture with, like, your grandparents or the old people, because they could die soon.
Ollie:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:That could be the last picture that you ever have with them.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:And what if you also had a video with granddad?
Olivia Colman:I know, I know.
Olivia Colman:One of the last ever photos with my granddad was at our wedding, and.
Olivia Colman:And I.
Olivia Colman:His voice wasn't captured on the video, but how lovely would that be?
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Yeah, absolutely.
Olivia Colman:If you always had something to look.
Ollie:Back on, soon you'll be able to do it all with AI, so it.
Olivia Colman:Won'T even be necessary.
Ollie:But it's a good point.
Ollie:Definitely.
Olivia Colman:Yeah.
Olivia Colman:You're never ever.
Olivia Colman:You're never going to regret having it.
Olivia Colman:What is difficult, and it's something I'm going to talk about in a future episode, is all these little extras.
Olivia Colman:It's difficult because you can't, unless you've got a never ending budget.
Olivia Colman:And even if you have, you shouldn't spend it all.
Olivia Colman:You can't have everything.
Olivia Colman:No, but it is the little bit.
Olivia Colman:So you don't regret it, do you?
Ollie:No.
Ollie:No.
Ollie:I mean, yeah, I think of all the couples we've done videos for, none of them, I'd like to think none of them have regretted using us.
Ollie:They've all been very happy with.
Ollie:With the results.
Olivia Colman:So what's the.
Olivia Colman:What's the five year plan?
Olivia Colman:Ollie, Shona's gonna quit her job.
Olivia Colman:You're gonna have an office in the house, maybe a dog, some kids running around, filmed on phones.
Olivia Colman:It's gonna go global.
Ollie:Dad, you've pretty much summed up.
Olivia Colman:That's it.
Olivia Colman:I've done it.
Ollie:That would be perfect.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:I mean, I don't.
Ollie:I should probably have a five year plan.
Ollie:I don't have it.
Ollie:No, he said, just growing as much as possible, doing as many videos as we can.
Olivia Colman:How long does it take you to edit a standard with.
Olivia Colman:With ten filmers and 200 clips?
Olivia Colman:And when you say 200 clips, is that like 30 seconds or a minute, or is that like half an hour of each clip?
Ollie:Well, it varies some.
Ollie:There'll be lots of, like, ten second clips, and then there might be like a half hour clip of a speech ceremony.
Olivia Colman:Yeah, yeah.
Ollie:Oh, yeah.
Ollie:So.
Ollie:But tends to be a few hours worth of footage.
Ollie:Fortunately, due to the miracle of technology, we're able to organize all the clips into chronological order, like, without having to do anything because it's all kind of in the data from the phones.
Olivia Colman:Oh, clever.
Ollie:We can get it all in the timeline because that was the initial problem I had, was.
Olivia Colman:Yeah, I bet it was doing it.
Ollie:And I was trying to organize, and then I eventually realized I could basically do it automatically.
Ollie:So it's a.
Ollie:I don't know, probably.
Ollie:It varies, obviously, from wedding to wedding, how much footage we get.
Ollie:On average, it's probably like a day.
Olivia Colman:Tidy.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Not too long.
Olivia Colman:You're really living the life, aren't you?
Olivia Colman:What have you got on lately?
Olivia Colman:You're just hanging out, just.
Ollie:Well, we're moving house at the moment, so that's stress.
Olivia Colman:But I'll let you off then.
Olivia Colman:I think it's a brilliant idea.
Olivia Colman:And actually, like I say, with the cost, it's a very reasonable extra, budget wise, to have something quite lovely.
Olivia Colman:And now I know, because, like I said, my main concern was that you would just give the job to anyone and they'd be pissed as a new.
Olivia Colman:And wouldn't do anything.
Olivia Colman:If that did happen, though, would you refund me my money?
Ollie:Yeah, I mean, we.
Olivia Colman:In theory, if you've got nothing to edit.
Ollie:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Ollie:Obviously there's no.
Ollie:There's no real.
Ollie:Our website already functions, so it doesn't really cost us to run the website.
Ollie:So if we don't have anything to edit, then we wouldn't.
Ollie:Yeah, we'd be able to.
Olivia Colman:I'm such a journalist, aren't I?
Olivia Colman:Really?
Olivia Colman:Asked the hard hitting questions.
Ollie:Yeah.
Ollie:Touch wood.
Ollie:That's never happened.
Ollie:Yet.
Ollie:So hopefully it won't happen.
Olivia Colman:I think.
Olivia Colman:No, I think it's a brilliant idea, actually.
Olivia Colman:Well done, you.
Olivia Colman:And I've not heard of it before.
Olivia Colman:Is it a thing now?
Olivia Colman:Have other people come, started coming out of the woodwork?
Ollie:No, there's no one else that I know of that does quite what we do.
Ollie:I mean, it's a blessing and a curse because it's.
Ollie:It's good because we're.
Ollie:It's unique, the only ones doing it.
Ollie:But it's also difficult because I always think when people first start planning their wedding, they have a list that comes straight to mind of what they want to book, which, you know, photographer, celebrant, florist, etcetera.
Ollie:No one has on that list, the film it yourself video service, because it's.
Olivia Colman:A bit niche, so.
Olivia Colman:Niche.
Ollie:So, yeah, the main thing that I am kind of trying to do at the moment is just get the name out there as much as possible and get the content out there.
Olivia Colman:Well, hopefully the three listeners that I have on this podcast will, because I'm convinced that no one listens, even though I'm told they do.
Olivia Colman:I'm convinced it's all a scam.
Olivia Colman:But hopefully they will.
Olivia Colman:They will hear this episode and they will get excited and book you for all their many, many weddings.
Olivia Colman:So I think it's a brilliant idea.
Ollie:Yeah, that's the other problem with weddings, is that people only have one.
Ollie:So you put all this effort into the marketing, you get a customer, they book you, but then they're not going to get married again, so.
Olivia Colman:Well, do you know this day and age.
Olivia Colman:I know what you mean.
Olivia Colman:And I find it, when you were talking earlier about investing in your couples and stuff and getting to know them, I find it particularly difficult because I really get to know my couples and we become friends and then the wedding happens and it's like, oh, Cheerio.
Olivia Colman:Thanks.
Olivia Colman:Bye.
Olivia Colman:I'm dead to them.
Ollie:Do they at least live?
Ollie:I guess you mostly focus locally or you.
Olivia Colman:No, I go all over.
Olivia Colman:But I do stay friendly, I do stay friends with, especially all my brides, which is lovely.
Olivia Colman:But, yeah, you put all this work in, but then it's the same if you're planning your own wedding, isn't it?
Olivia Colman:I suppose.
Ollie:Well, yeah, yeah, I guess you meet all the suppliers and then you feel like your best friends and then never see them again.
Ollie:On that note, can't end on that.
Olivia Colman:Yes.
Olivia Colman:Thank you, Ollie.
Olivia Colman:Cheerio.
Olivia Colman:Dead to me now.
Olivia Colman:Thank you so much.
Ollie:You don't need to get to know me.
Olivia Colman:I know we don't lose.
Olivia Colman:Yes, filmed.
Olivia Colman:I feel like I could come up with a.
Olivia Colman:With a catchphrase where you filmed on phones.
Olivia Colman:Doesn't matter that he's a wanker.
Olivia Colman:You'll get a great video.
Olivia Colman:You're not lovely.
Olivia Colman:All right, my darling.
Olivia Colman:Well, listen, thank you so much for coming on and chatting to me about it because I think.
Olivia Colman:I think it's very cool.
Olivia Colman:And good luck with everything.
Olivia Colman:Have you entered the wedding industry awards?
Ollie:I have not.
Ollie:Should.
Olivia Colman:I don't know.
Olivia Colman:That's an off air conversation.
Olivia Colman:But good luck with everything.
Olivia Colman:And I hope it just grows and grows and grows and gets bigger and bigger because I think it's fab.
Ollie:Thank you very much.
Olivia Colman:Lovely.
Ollie:Properly.
Olivia Colman:Take care.
Olivia Colman:Okay, this week's RSVP.
Olivia Colman:I have had a DM from Steve and Mark and they write, hi, Olivia.
Olivia Colman:Absolutely love the pod.
Olivia Colman:Quick question for you.
Olivia Colman:Even though we have said no children at our wedding next spring, it's causing.
Olivia Colman:I think it meant drama.
Olivia Colman:Misspelled that.
Olivia Colman:It's causing drama with some family members and we don't quite know how to navigate it.
Olivia Colman:Can you help?
Olivia Colman:Oh, no.
Olivia Colman:The thing is, you know how I feel about children at weddings.
Olivia Colman:I don't love it.
Olivia Colman:I'm sorry, I don't.
Olivia Colman:It's controversial, but I don't.
Olivia Colman:You've already sent the invitations.
Olivia Colman:You've already said, I imagine, politely, that you don't want kids at the wedding and they're still kicking up a fuss.
Olivia Colman:So my instinct is to say, it's not about you, Karen, cousin Karen.
Olivia Colman:It's not about you and it's not about your kids.
Olivia Colman:We love your kids, but this is our life, I assume.
Olivia Colman:Well, I shouldn't assume, but I imagine if you're not having kids, you don't have any kids of your own.
Olivia Colman:So just when I say to couples who don't have kids, their own, and they're not inviting kids to weddings, you haven't ruined your life yet, so why would you want to ruin your wedding day?
Olivia Colman:Okay.
Olivia Colman:I think all you can do in this situation, which is horrible and it's really common, is to say to them, whoever's causing drama about it is to say to them, with all due respect, I understand you're upset, and I'm really sorry about that.
Olivia Colman:But this is our day, this is how we feel.
Olivia Colman:And on this occasion, there's just no room for movement.
Olivia Colman:There's no negotiation.
Olivia Colman:I'm sorry if that upsets you, I'm genuinely sorry, but this is the way it is.
Olivia Colman:And if it upsets them and they're like, well, I'm not coming then.
Olivia Colman:Well then f to be honest, I'll come.
Olivia Colman:Okay, save yourself some money.
Olivia Colman:I think sometimes people use it as an excuse, especially if they're traveling.
Olivia Colman:And also, like I've said before, if you're saying no kids at your wedding, then you do kind of have to appreciate that.
Olivia Colman:Then that might mean that one or both of the couple you've invited can't come.
Olivia Colman:If they genuinely perhaps they are in a situation where they don't have anyone who can babysit, or they're not able to leave their child alone for whatever reason, then totally fair enough.
Olivia Colman:So you'll have you might have to accept that, which is a bit shit, but then, you know, swings and roundabouts where you often find children.
Olivia Colman:That sounded weird.
Olivia Colman:Anyhow, hope that helps.
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Ollie:The music is Mister Sunny face by Wayne Jones, and the show is produced and edited by Drew Toynbee.